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What I Love About Pregnancy

I was just reading vbacadventure blog, and Kendra had a neat topic- What she liked about being pregnant.  Below is her list, and I agree with all of hers!  I also added some more of mine (continuning on with number 11-22, numbers 23 and up are from my readers- thanks guys!). 

I have a few friends that are pregnant right now, and thought it would be fun to add what you loved about being pregnant.  If you have some that aren’t listed yet, leave me a comment and I’ll compile a list. 

I also just commented yesterday to Joe, that I read Halle Berry, who is 4 months pregnant, when asked how pregnancy was said,

“There is nothing bad about it. The morning sickness and the vomiting and the hot sweats. Nothing’s been bad about it. I’ve loved every second of it.”

I just LOVE her attitude- it is so easy to complain and get caught up in the pregnancy-is-horrible-and traumatic- mindset, and it is refreshing to hear someone like Halle Berry, talk positively about pregnancy.  Evidently she tried for a while before she conceived, so it puts it in perspective that even though there are things that aren’t great about being pregnant all the time, it really is a miracle, and it is such a special time-a time that is over very quickly.

So lets keep the positive energy going, and let us know what you loved about being pregnant!

1. It’s perfectly acceptable to gain weight

2. Your new little baby is all yours for 9 months!

3. The little kicks

4. The cute belly

5. All the comments from strangers about their own pregnancies

6. The anticipation of what your baby will look and act like

7. Finding out if it is a girl or a boy is SO EXCITING!

8. No birth control!

9. Excuses for back rubs

10. You get to budge long lines for the restroom

11.  Realizing when you really realize you are pregnant- you are going to be bringing a new person into the world

12. Feeling your baby kick for the first time

13. Imagining and wondering what your life will be like with a little boy or a little girl

14. Picking out names for the unique person in your tummy

15. Watching your belly grow, and knowing your body is doing what it is supposed to do

16. Knowing you not only had a hand in creating a new life, but you are solely responsible for nourishing it, and protecting it, while pregnant

17. Getting to splurge on treats for yourself (massages, special food, etc.)

18. Not feeling guilty for taking lots of naps, or lying on the couch doing absolutely nothing

19. Imagining how the new baby will interact with its older siblings

20. Anticipating the day you finally get to see, touch, and kiss your baby for the first time.

21. Thinking of what the baby’s birth will be like, and knowing it is a chance to do what millions of women have done before us, and will do after us- give birth, and keep the human race going.

22.  Dreaming of the future and what kind of child, teenager, adult, and parent, your baby will grow into.

23.  I love those kicks and rolls! And I’m really excited about birth this time too.

24.  Getting to see baby for the first time with an ultrasound.

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Excellent Article on Disturbing C-Section Trend

The other day, while browsing through my local newspaper, I came across this excellent article on the alarming c-section rate (more on that in a moment) from Jennifer Block, author of “Pushed: The Painful Truth About Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care.”

I have never heard about this book before, and after reading the review of it on Amazon, it sounds fascinating!  I will definitely have to read this- here are a few lines from the review:

“…the United States has the most intense and widespread medical management of birth” in the world, and yet “ranks near the bottom among industrialized countries in maternal and infant mortality.” Block shows how, in transforming childbirth into a business, hospitals have turned “procedures and devices developed for the treatment of abnormality” into routine practice, performed for no reason than “speeding up and ordering an unpredictable…process”

Back to the article that was in my paper- it was originally published in the LA Times, and I do not get that paper, so it was nice to see that other newspapers are picking up and actually running these kinds of stories.  The title of the article is: The C-Section Epidemic.

I loved this article and in my opinion, Ms. Block is right on, regarding the sad state of C-section rates.  In my case, I found her words to be unfortunate, but true, regarding hospitals and doctors use of repeat C-sections instead of promoting VBAC’s (vaginal birth after cesarean), when she writes (bold print mine),

“Too many caesareans are literally medical overkill. Yet some U.S. hospitals are now delivering half of all babies surgically. Across the nation, 1 in 4 low-risk first-time mothers will give birth via caesarean, and if they have more children, 95% will be born by repeat surgery. In many cases, women have no choice in the matter. Though vaginal birth after caesarean is a low-risk event, hundreds of institutions have banned it, and many doctors will no longer attend it because of malpractice liability.”

My local hospital, which is all but five minutes away, has banned VBAC’s.  I wrote the administration, doctors on staff, and the board of directors there, questioning why they will not allow women to choose VBAC’s, and it came down to the insurance factor. 

Women’s lives are being put in danger, needlessly.  I have written before urging anyone who may be faced with a c-section to do your research, and realize that it is major abdominal surgery, with risks of complications and infections, much higher than normal vaginal birth.  Don’t get a c-section, merely for the convenience of the hospital and or doctor’s if it isn’t medically necessary.   Once you have had a C-section, it is becoming increasingly hard and in some places, nearly impossible, to have a VBAC birth, with subsequent pregnancies. 

I liked Ms. Block’s article so much, I am going to post the entire article at the end of my post, so you don’t even have to click a link to read it. Every woman should read this article. It might not relate to you directly, but you can share it, if you have a sister, a daughter, a cousin, a daughter-in-law, a granddaughter, a son (yes, we need to start educating our sons on this subject as well), or a friend facing a possble C-section.  It is valuable information, which could save her life.

I think these new statistics from the CDC should be a huge wake-up call to the medical community, and everyone-really, which proves C-sections that are not medically necessary, are hurting women, and in some cases killing them.  This disturbing trend must change!  What will it take?  If not now, when?

The C-Section Epidemic

More women are dying in childbirth thanks to the high numbers of doctors and mothers who opt out of normal delivery.

By Jennifer Block
September 24, 2007

Pre-term births are on the rise. Nearly one-third of women have major abdominal surgery to give birth. And compared with other industrialized countries, the United States ranks second-to-last in infant survival. For years, these numbers have suggested something is terribly amiss in delivery wards. Now there is even more compelling evidence that the U.S. maternity care system is failing: For the first time in decades, the number of women dying in childbirth has increased.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention last month released 2004 data showing a rate of 13.1 maternal deaths per 100,000 live births. For a country that considers itself a leader in medical technology, this figure should be a wake-up call. In Scandinavian countries, about 3 per 100,000 women die, which is thought to be the irreducible minimum. The U.S. remains far from that. Even more disturbing is the racial disparity: Black women are nearly four times as likely to die during childbirth than white women, with a staggering rate of 34.7 deaths per 100,000.

These high rates aren’t a surprise to anyone who’s been investigating childbirth deaths. Physician researchers who have conducted local case reviews across the country consistently have found death rates much higher than what the CDC has been reporting. In New York City between 2003 and 2005, researchers found a death rate of 22.9 per 100,000; in Florida between 1999 and 2002, the rate was 17.6. Other reports by CDC epidemiologists have acknowledged that deaths related to childbirth are probably underreported by a factor of two to three.

What’s to blame for the poor U.S. showing? True, we are the only industrialized country without universal healthcare. But when it comes to childbirth, we basically have it. Ninety-nine percent of women give birth in a hospital with access to all the bells and whistles — high-tech machines that continuously monitor the baby’s heart rate, drugs that can control the speed of contractions like the volume on a stereo, instruments that can coax a reluctant head out of the birth canal, and surgeons at the ready to perform the mother of all interventions, the caesarean section.

The C-section, now used to deliver 30% of American babies, is such a norm these days that, in some places, doctors and women have taken to calling it “C-birth” or even just “having a ‘C.'” Pet names aside, the procedure is major surgery, and although it saves lives when performed as an emergency intervention, it causes more harm than good when overused. Here’s why: Caesareans are inherently riskier than normal, vaginal birth. They also lead to repeat caesareans. And repeat caesareans carry even greater risks.

Placenta accreta is one of them. The placenta embeds into the uterine scar from a previous surgery, causing a catastrophic hemorrhage at the time of delivery. Most women with placenta accreta lose their uteri; as many as 1 in 15 bleed to death. In 1970, accretas were so rare that most obstetricians never encountered one in their career. Today, according to a University of Chicago study, the incidence may be as high as 1 in 500 births. And that is all because of caesareans and repeat caesareans.

Obesity plays a part as well because obese women are more likely to have health problems that make a caesarean more likely, and more likely to suffer surgical complications. Still, it all comes back to the “C,” which could easily stand for “culprit.”  

According to a sweeping 2006 study by the World Health Organization, published last year in the medical journal Lancet, a hospital’s caesarean rate should not exceed 15%. When it does, women suffer more infections, hemorrhages and deaths, and babies are more likely to be born prematurely or die.

Too many caesareans are literally medical overkill. Yet some U.S. hospitals are now delivering half of all babies surgically. Across the nation, 1 in 4 low-risk first-time mothers will give birth via caesarean, and if they have more children, 95% will be born by repeat surgery. In many cases, women have no choice in the matter. Though vaginal birth after caesarean is a low-risk event, hundreds of institutions have banned it, and many doctors will no longer attend it because of malpractice liability.

American maternity wards are fast becoming surgical suites. We’ve become dangerously cavalier about it, but the caesarean rate should be a major public health concern. Universal care alone won’t solve the problem; what pregnant women need is entirely different care. They need doctors and hospitals that promote normal labor and delivery. Of course, reducing obesity belongs on the healthcare agenda, and so does curtailing the scalpel.

Jennifer Block is the author of “Pushed: The Painful Truth About Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care.”

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Can You Help La Leche League Group in NY?

I recently was contacted by a La Leche League  leader, Whitney, in New York, who told me La Leche League of New York West is planning an area conference (for October 5-7 in Grand Island, New York). 

They are holding a silent auction fundraiser at this conference and they need silent auction items.  They will be acknowledging all auction donors in their conference booklet. They will also display company-marketing materials next to any donations they receive for the auction. Whitney said they are expecting between 100-200 women plus their partners and children to participate. 

I absolutely adore the LLL-I have found so many helpful articles on their website when I have had breastfeeding, issues, problems, or questions.  Furthermore, their book, “The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding,”  is just a wonderful resource for anyone who has questions about nursing, or who is planning to nurse, and just needs to know where to begin.  It also has great troubleshooting solutions in it, and I think of this book as my “bible” for nursing. 

So, I was very happy to donate a breastfeeding shirt, and bumper sticker from my on-line shop, Little Pumpkin Sweet Pea Designs for their auction. 

If you can donate any items to this group, I know they would appreciate it.  You can contact the La Leche League leader, Whitney, by e-mail.  She can give you all the details.  But please hurry, because Whitney needs to receive all donations in the next couple of weeks, if you want to be recognized in the conference booklet. 

If you think you can help, that is great, and I know they thank you in advance.  It is for a wonderful cause.  Every nursing mother (or mother-to-be thinking about nursing), needs support, and the LLL is always there.  Now there is a simple way to give back to a local chapter of this wonderful organization!  🙂

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Celebrity Speaks Against C-Sections

In a rare occurance, a Hollywood celebrity actually spoke against c-sections, and said she would not recommend having a c-section.

The celebrity: Tori Spelling. I admit I was surprised this came from her, but it is refreshing to hear someone from Hollywood not glamorize a c-section. She had an emergency c-section with her son, Liam, in March. 

She talks to People about losing her baby weight, and her experience with her c-section.  She said after the birth, she didn’t feel so great because of the c-section, and that made losing weight even harder.  She goes on to say that, “there is a big myth in Hollywood that actresses get c-sections because they are easier, but if I did not have to have one, I would not recommend it.”  

I have never been a huge Tori Spelling fan, and some of her interview in this video sounds a bit “flaky,” but you can also see how much she loves her baby, and I think it is great she spoke up with her comments about c-sections.  I also love that she is nursing her son, even though she has a rough start. 

Check out the video from People– (the date of the video is Sept. 12th) and it is only a minute and a half.  At least there is someone saying having a c-section isn’t easy or great!

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Why I Don’t Go Out at Night

Tonight Joe and I met up with one of his friends he has known from his high school days, T.  She is in town for a few days for work.  I drove the boys and I to Joe’s work, and then we went to pick up T from at her hotel.  We took two cars, since there isn’t enough room in my car for another passenger with the two car seats in the back. 

Let me back up for a moment and say, this almost didn’t happen, because as I was pulling into the driveway from picking up Ryan from preschool this afternoon, I heard this crunch noise as I was rolling the windows up.  I looked at the passenger-driver side window, as it came out of whatever holds it up, and slipped all the way down into the door.  How weird is that?  I didn’t want to be driving at night with no window- and I have to work tomorrow, and was worried about parking my car all day, with the window gone. 

I crammed my fingers in there, and was able to retrieve the window, but could not get it back on track.  So Joe told me to duct tape it after I called him at work.  I couldn’t just duct tape it, so I had to prop it up with a wire hanger and then duct tape it. Ghetto for sure, but fortunately it works, it holds the window in place, and our mechanic can fix it on Thursday.

So after “fixing” the window, we meet up with his friend who told us she is 12 weeks pregnant with her and her husband’s first baby!  We are so excited. She is due in March, just a few days after another one of my friends, E., is due with her first baby, and a few days before yet another friend, N., is due with her third baby.  March must be a good months for babies!

We had a nice dinner, and the boys and I left at eight.  We were in a town about 30 minutes from home- nothing major. In fact, I used to live on the outskirts of this town.  But that was 10 years ago, and it has been built up so much, I hardly recognize it anymore.  As I was driving, I saw the road I wanted to get back on, and took it.  As I was driving, I thought nothing looked familiar at all, and then I realized the sign had said east, and I wanted west.  I was totally going in the wrong direction.

Well no big deal- I saw the sign coming up for the major Interstate, and even though it was a few miles longer, I knew I could head north on the Interstate, and get back home.  So I follow the signs, for the lane going to the north.  Evidently they are doing construction on this road and the lanes don’t match up anymore with the road signs!

After seeing the bridge I was supposed to be on, heading north, I was still heading east.  Oy!  Next exit was 3 miles.  Now I let out a few choice cuss words, with Ryan asking me in the back what was wrong.  I was frustrated, but still knew where I was going, so I told him I had missed the turn.  I get to the next exit where I can turn around, and have never in my life been on this road, but it made a nice loop, and I was back on another Interstate, heading west, that would hook up with the main Interstate that would take me north.  I saw the sign telling me the lane to get in to merge up with the northbound Interstate. 

More ******* construction.  Once again, I was NOT in the northbound lane, I was still heading west.  Now I was really upset, and fired off a few more cuss words, with Ryan getting more worried. 

It is bad enough when you are flustered, but with kids, you can’t even vent, because they get stressed too.  I saw a turn off for the southbound direction of the main Interstate, and hallelujah- the lane actually lined up with what the sign said.  So, now I was going south, and needed to turn around so I would finally be going north. 

I exited at the first exit. I called Joe, because I was so flustered.  He told me to just relax and he said I was right where I needed to be.  I had to wait for two lights and then I was finally going northbound.  Thirty minutes after I had left the restaurant.  Twenty minutes after that, we were finally home! A trip that should have taken 30 minutes at the most had turned into almost an hour.    Ryan told Dad that we had a problem getting home- I’ll say.

I am just thankful the window stayed put and didn’t fall back down, or fall out on the highway. That would have been lovely.  It is not fun to be turned around, and flustered driving at night with two little kids.  Now I know why I don’t like to drive at night!