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What I Love About Pregnancy

I was just reading vbacadventure blog, and Kendra had a neat topic- What she liked about being pregnant.  Below is her list, and I agree with all of hers!  I also added some more of mine (continuning on with number 11-22, numbers 23 and up are from my readers- thanks guys!). 

I have a few friends that are pregnant right now, and thought it would be fun to add what you loved about being pregnant.  If you have some that aren’t listed yet, leave me a comment and I’ll compile a list. 

I also just commented yesterday to Joe, that I read Halle Berry, who is 4 months pregnant, when asked how pregnancy was said,

“There is nothing bad about it. The morning sickness and the vomiting and the hot sweats. Nothing’s been bad about it. I’ve loved every second of it.”

I just LOVE her attitude- it is so easy to complain and get caught up in the pregnancy-is-horrible-and traumatic- mindset, and it is refreshing to hear someone like Halle Berry, talk positively about pregnancy.  Evidently she tried for a while before she conceived, so it puts it in perspective that even though there are things that aren’t great about being pregnant all the time, it really is a miracle, and it is such a special time-a time that is over very quickly.

So lets keep the positive energy going, and let us know what you loved about being pregnant!

1. It’s perfectly acceptable to gain weight

2. Your new little baby is all yours for 9 months!

3. The little kicks

4. The cute belly

5. All the comments from strangers about their own pregnancies

6. The anticipation of what your baby will look and act like

7. Finding out if it is a girl or a boy is SO EXCITING!

8. No birth control!

9. Excuses for back rubs

10. You get to budge long lines for the restroom

11.  Realizing when you really realize you are pregnant- you are going to be bringing a new person into the world

12. Feeling your baby kick for the first time

13. Imagining and wondering what your life will be like with a little boy or a little girl

14. Picking out names for the unique person in your tummy

15. Watching your belly grow, and knowing your body is doing what it is supposed to do

16. Knowing you not only had a hand in creating a new life, but you are solely responsible for nourishing it, and protecting it, while pregnant

17. Getting to splurge on treats for yourself (massages, special food, etc.)

18. Not feeling guilty for taking lots of naps, or lying on the couch doing absolutely nothing

19. Imagining how the new baby will interact with its older siblings

20. Anticipating the day you finally get to see, touch, and kiss your baby for the first time.

21. Thinking of what the baby’s birth will be like, and knowing it is a chance to do what millions of women have done before us, and will do after us- give birth, and keep the human race going.

22.  Dreaming of the future and what kind of child, teenager, adult, and parent, your baby will grow into.

23.  I love those kicks and rolls! And I’m really excited about birth this time too.

24.  Getting to see baby for the first time with an ultrasound.

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Cole Family & Friends Household Ryan

Long Week is Over

I didn’t blog much last week, because Joe was out of town the entire week, so the “single parenting” kept me busy!

I have said it before, but single parents have my complete and utter admiration.  The boys were really good, and the week went well, but it is still exhausting.  I don’t think three people were ever as happy to see Joe, than when he got home on Friday evening.

On Saturday, we decided to take it easy and relax.  We slept in, and then just lounged around and played with the boys.  In the afternoon, we decided to clean the Jeep out.  The boys played in the buckets of water, and had a great old time getting soaked.  It is nice to have a clean and organized car- inside and out.

That night we picked up a pizza, and went to Joe’s parents house to watch baseball playoffs.  Ryan also “performed” his Music Man routine, but he is a bit shy around other people and danced around more than he sang, but he was still cute!

Today Joe mowed the lawns, and cleaned up the yard, while Ryan and Cole “helped” and played outside.  When they came in for lunch, their feet were covered in grass, and Cole, who had taken his Crocs off, had green feet!  He looked like a little Frankenstein.  I should have taken a picture, but didn’t think of it in time.  I had to soak his feet for several minutes and then scrub them with a nail brush to get them clean.

I went grocery shopping, and then we went out for dinner at the boys’ favorite noodle restaurant.  It was a nice, low-keyed weekend.

Tomorrow I have a conference call in the morning for work, and then my sister and my niece are coming for a visit.  My niece just turned six-months, and that is my favorite age for babies.  I just love that stage.  I have pictures of Cole and Ryan at six months, and I just can’t believe how fast the time has gone, when I look back at those pictures.  I’m glad I’ll be able to get my baby fix in with my niece. 

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Cole Current Events Health

Thomas We Don’t Love You

Thomas the Tank Engine is pretty big in our house, as I imagine it is, in most households with toddlers and pre-schoolers.

By now, hopefully you are aware of one of the first toy recalls from China, involved Thomas train items- specifically trains and toys with red paint on them, like James, etc.  I was horrified to find that we had one of the James trains on the recall list for unacceptable levels of lead paint.  I was even more horrified to see that almost all the paint was gone- and I know where- probably down my sweet 16 month-old’s throat.

Cole chews on everything, so it wasn’t a stretch to think he was chewing on the train and the paint peeled off.  Then I remembered that my step-grandmother had given the boys that particular train, which were from her grandsons, who are 8 and 6.  So it is possible the paint could have been chipped off long before it made its way into Cole’s mouth, but it still has me nervous.

I meant to have the Dr. do a lead test on Cole at his check-up last month, but totally spaced it out!  Duh, so we’ll have to make an appointment for that, to make sure Cole doesn’t have lead poisoning. 

It blows my mind that the company who makes Thomas items, RC2 Corp. didn’t have tighter control standards on these toys.  What is worse in my mind, is have you ever bought a Thomas Train?  They aren’t cheap.  They usually run over $10 for ONE train.  If they have a coal car, or tender car, with it, it is more like $20. 

Obviously RC2 wasn’t putting this money into ensuring their products were safe, and their Chinese manufacturers were following guidelines for lead paint.  It makes me mad, because when you spend that kind of money for toys for your children, they should be safe, and parents EXPECT them to be safe.  I still have the James train sitting on my desk; I just haven’t gotten around to sending it back.  Turns out, that may have been a good thing. 

RC2 is caught in another embarrassing fiasco.  Evidently after the first recall, they sent out Thomas items as gifts to their “loyal” customers, who had returned tainted items during the first recall, thanking them for their loyalty.  About 2,000 of those gift items are now being recalled for- yes, you guessed it- unacceptable levels of lead in the paint!

How this was allowed to happen, is beyond me, and what a public relations nightmare for RC2!  You think they would check, re-check, and double-check again their products, before sending another lead tainted toy back to their “loyal” customers.  Gee- with that kind of gift, I think I’ll pass. Thanks but no thanks.  Click here to read the entire story.

My boys love Thomas, but I have zero confidence in RC2 that they have the ability to monitor and assure me that their toys are safe.  I doubt we buy any more Thomas items any time soon.  For now, sorry Thomas, we don’t love you.

All these recalls from China prove that yes, companies can save a buck in the short term, by using cheap labor, but in the end, it may cost them way more in profits, due to recalls, lost sales, and consumer confidence, then any savings they gained by manufacturing in China. 

Young children under the age of seven, are very sensitive to lead, and it can cause a number of  problems ranging from learning difficulties and lower IQ’s, to kidney problems, confusion, belly pain, headaches, seizures, and brain problems. 

In case you aren’t aware, toys manufactured in the USA don’t use lead in their paint, and toys manufactured in Europe, and especially in Germany, have some of the highest toy safety standards in the world- even more stringent than the USA.  So buy your toys from the good ol’ USA, or Europe. 

It isn’t worth risking your child’s health and development for toys and for companies who choose to put their profits above the safety of children. 

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Activities Cole Family & Friends Ryan

Fall is in the Air

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On Sunday, my dad, the boys, and I, went to the mountains to let the boys play, and to see the magnificent fall colors- specifically the Aspens.  Joe had to work, so it was a great day to spend a Sunday!

We started out at a mountain park, near a river.  We were hoping the boys could throw rocks in the water, but there was not really a flat spot, so we pretty much had to hold on to them the entire time.  There was one little spot where it was flat, but it was small, and we couldn’t all fit in there.  But, Ryan and Cole did get to throw some rocks in, and Ryan had fun climbing around on some bigger rocks, up farther on the bank.  My dad even managed to take this picture of the boys and I:

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This was the flat spot, and as you can see, it was pretty cramped!  After the boys played for a while, we ate our picnic lunch, and then the boys played on some play ground equipment.

Then my dad said he knew of another place in the national forest, where he thought there would be some good aspens to see, and we could roast marshmallows for the boys.  It was about an hour from where we were.

Ryan and Cole fell asleep for about 20 minutes on the way up, and this place really was off the beaten path.  I got really queasy, because the road was super curvy, dirt, and was  wash boardy.  We were bounced around for 45-minutes.

But it was worth it!  We saw some beautiful fall colors- red, orange, yellow, and gold.  There were a lot of cottonwood trees that were turning colors too.  When we arrived at the spot my dad knew, there was this entire grove of blazing, gold aspens on each side of the road which were almost touching each other.  It was like a tunnel of gold!  I wished I had been able to take a picture, but I was feeling so yucky, I wasn’t up to it.

We parked the car in a meadow, where the colors weren’t quite as vibrant from what we had just seen, but they were still great.  The three pictures at the top of the page, are from where we stopped and hung out. I sat down and with the warm sun, fresh air, and a breeze, I felt better quickly.

Ryan loved the s’more my dad made for him- he had two, but he liked the plain marshmallows best.  I think he ended up eating about eight!  Cole just loved the graham crackers- he grabbed hand-fulls of them out of the package and started munching!  Here are the little mountain boys enjoying their snacks:

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The weather was nice, but there was a wind that would start, and it would make it chilly.  After we hung out for an hour, we took a little hike on a trail that was right there.  We only walked for about ten minutes- but we plan to come back next summer, and definitely camp.  Here is another picture of Cole I managed to take when he was exploring, and didn’t know I was watching him:

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The boys had a blast, going to the woods and just running around and playing.  They were so tired when we got home, they wanted their baths, and were in bed, and asleep at 8pm- I don’t think that has ever happened before.

So far, our fall has just been beautiful.  The air is cooler now during the day, and at night, but we have been having Indian Summer days, almost every day. I love autumn- it is my favorite season. 

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Excellent Article on Disturbing C-Section Trend

The other day, while browsing through my local newspaper, I came across this excellent article on the alarming c-section rate (more on that in a moment) from Jennifer Block, author of “Pushed: The Painful Truth About Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care.”

I have never heard about this book before, and after reading the review of it on Amazon, it sounds fascinating!  I will definitely have to read this- here are a few lines from the review:

“…the United States has the most intense and widespread medical management of birth” in the world, and yet “ranks near the bottom among industrialized countries in maternal and infant mortality.” Block shows how, in transforming childbirth into a business, hospitals have turned “procedures and devices developed for the treatment of abnormality” into routine practice, performed for no reason than “speeding up and ordering an unpredictable…process”

Back to the article that was in my paper- it was originally published in the LA Times, and I do not get that paper, so it was nice to see that other newspapers are picking up and actually running these kinds of stories.  The title of the article is: The C-Section Epidemic.

I loved this article and in my opinion, Ms. Block is right on, regarding the sad state of C-section rates.  In my case, I found her words to be unfortunate, but true, regarding hospitals and doctors use of repeat C-sections instead of promoting VBAC’s (vaginal birth after cesarean), when she writes (bold print mine),

“Too many caesareans are literally medical overkill. Yet some U.S. hospitals are now delivering half of all babies surgically. Across the nation, 1 in 4 low-risk first-time mothers will give birth via caesarean, and if they have more children, 95% will be born by repeat surgery. In many cases, women have no choice in the matter. Though vaginal birth after caesarean is a low-risk event, hundreds of institutions have banned it, and many doctors will no longer attend it because of malpractice liability.”

My local hospital, which is all but five minutes away, has banned VBAC’s.  I wrote the administration, doctors on staff, and the board of directors there, questioning why they will not allow women to choose VBAC’s, and it came down to the insurance factor. 

Women’s lives are being put in danger, needlessly.  I have written before urging anyone who may be faced with a c-section to do your research, and realize that it is major abdominal surgery, with risks of complications and infections, much higher than normal vaginal birth.  Don’t get a c-section, merely for the convenience of the hospital and or doctor’s if it isn’t medically necessary.   Once you have had a C-section, it is becoming increasingly hard and in some places, nearly impossible, to have a VBAC birth, with subsequent pregnancies. 

I liked Ms. Block’s article so much, I am going to post the entire article at the end of my post, so you don’t even have to click a link to read it. Every woman should read this article. It might not relate to you directly, but you can share it, if you have a sister, a daughter, a cousin, a daughter-in-law, a granddaughter, a son (yes, we need to start educating our sons on this subject as well), or a friend facing a possble C-section.  It is valuable information, which could save her life.

I think these new statistics from the CDC should be a huge wake-up call to the medical community, and everyone-really, which proves C-sections that are not medically necessary, are hurting women, and in some cases killing them.  This disturbing trend must change!  What will it take?  If not now, when?

The C-Section Epidemic

More women are dying in childbirth thanks to the high numbers of doctors and mothers who opt out of normal delivery.

By Jennifer Block
September 24, 2007

Pre-term births are on the rise. Nearly one-third of women have major abdominal surgery to give birth. And compared with other industrialized countries, the United States ranks second-to-last in infant survival. For years, these numbers have suggested something is terribly amiss in delivery wards. Now there is even more compelling evidence that the U.S. maternity care system is failing: For the first time in decades, the number of women dying in childbirth has increased.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention last month released 2004 data showing a rate of 13.1 maternal deaths per 100,000 live births. For a country that considers itself a leader in medical technology, this figure should be a wake-up call. In Scandinavian countries, about 3 per 100,000 women die, which is thought to be the irreducible minimum. The U.S. remains far from that. Even more disturbing is the racial disparity: Black women are nearly four times as likely to die during childbirth than white women, with a staggering rate of 34.7 deaths per 100,000.

These high rates aren’t a surprise to anyone who’s been investigating childbirth deaths. Physician researchers who have conducted local case reviews across the country consistently have found death rates much higher than what the CDC has been reporting. In New York City between 2003 and 2005, researchers found a death rate of 22.9 per 100,000; in Florida between 1999 and 2002, the rate was 17.6. Other reports by CDC epidemiologists have acknowledged that deaths related to childbirth are probably underreported by a factor of two to three.

What’s to blame for the poor U.S. showing? True, we are the only industrialized country without universal healthcare. But when it comes to childbirth, we basically have it. Ninety-nine percent of women give birth in a hospital with access to all the bells and whistles — high-tech machines that continuously monitor the baby’s heart rate, drugs that can control the speed of contractions like the volume on a stereo, instruments that can coax a reluctant head out of the birth canal, and surgeons at the ready to perform the mother of all interventions, the caesarean section.

The C-section, now used to deliver 30% of American babies, is such a norm these days that, in some places, doctors and women have taken to calling it “C-birth” or even just “having a ‘C.'” Pet names aside, the procedure is major surgery, and although it saves lives when performed as an emergency intervention, it causes more harm than good when overused. Here’s why: Caesareans are inherently riskier than normal, vaginal birth. They also lead to repeat caesareans. And repeat caesareans carry even greater risks.

Placenta accreta is one of them. The placenta embeds into the uterine scar from a previous surgery, causing a catastrophic hemorrhage at the time of delivery. Most women with placenta accreta lose their uteri; as many as 1 in 15 bleed to death. In 1970, accretas were so rare that most obstetricians never encountered one in their career. Today, according to a University of Chicago study, the incidence may be as high as 1 in 500 births. And that is all because of caesareans and repeat caesareans.

Obesity plays a part as well because obese women are more likely to have health problems that make a caesarean more likely, and more likely to suffer surgical complications. Still, it all comes back to the “C,” which could easily stand for “culprit.”  

According to a sweeping 2006 study by the World Health Organization, published last year in the medical journal Lancet, a hospital’s caesarean rate should not exceed 15%. When it does, women suffer more infections, hemorrhages and deaths, and babies are more likely to be born prematurely or die.

Too many caesareans are literally medical overkill. Yet some U.S. hospitals are now delivering half of all babies surgically. Across the nation, 1 in 4 low-risk first-time mothers will give birth via caesarean, and if they have more children, 95% will be born by repeat surgery. In many cases, women have no choice in the matter. Though vaginal birth after caesarean is a low-risk event, hundreds of institutions have banned it, and many doctors will no longer attend it because of malpractice liability.

American maternity wards are fast becoming surgical suites. We’ve become dangerously cavalier about it, but the caesarean rate should be a major public health concern. Universal care alone won’t solve the problem; what pregnant women need is entirely different care. They need doctors and hospitals that promote normal labor and delivery. Of course, reducing obesity belongs on the healthcare agenda, and so does curtailing the scalpel.

Jennifer Block is the author of “Pushed: The Painful Truth About Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care.”